Yesterday, I shared my thoughts and fears with this friend I spoke about in my previous blog. I was very honest, upset, vulnerable, and just laid it all out there for her. Only she and God know what she thought as I shared some of my deepest thoughts and worries about our friendship. She told me that she did not want to make me feel uncomfortable and make me do something that I did not want to do. Guess what? That’s exactly what I needed her to do. I needed her to make me do something I was reluctant to do. She has been doing that for a few months now. Think about it – from when we were small children, our parents pushed us to do our chores, told us to get good grades, that we needed to practice our instruments. We didn’t want to. For what purpose? To teach us a lesson, to make us better, so that we have something to look forward to, etc. In life, that never ends. Now, we have bosses that want us to do our jobs right, kids that need to be taken to soccer practice, etc. It never ends. But the best part is that it should never end. Those people in our lives that make us do things we don’t want to (or are reluctant to do) are doing us a favor, but we don’t like it because we didn’t ask for it. So, sometimes, that makes us mad and resentful. I have to be willing to “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” instead of feeling the fear and running away. If I do that, I never get better and never change my life. I felt stronger yesterday and even today, because I was so honest with her and have decided to let her in. Her husband says, “It is what it is.” I agree. Whenever you feel like you are doing something you don’t want to, try to find the benefit for you. I am sure there is one.
Doing something we don’t want to
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